Crazy Making

Geoff’s crazy making tactics. 

• Twisted my words around to have completely different meanings.
• Told me I was lying.
• Told me I was over analyzing everything.
• Told me that I think too much.
• Told me I was making things up.
• Told me I mistaken.
• Told me I that my feelings wasn’t what I feeling.
• Told me I was over eradiating.
• Told me I was crazy.
• Told me I was psycho.
• Told me I was hurting myself.
• Told I had no one to blame but myself.
• Told me I was being selfish.
• Change the subject during a fight he started.
• Blamed me for keeping him all night when I was crying and begging for him to leave me alone.
• Told me I was crying for no reason at all.
• Tried to convince me I need counseling.
• Enlisted his friends in telling me I was crazy.
• Told me I was brain washing my daughter.
• Said that I imagined things.

Geoff tried very hard and unsuccessfully to make me feel and believe I was crazy. His favorite was the twisting of the words. Every other Saturday night we were supposed to have a date night, but each and every time that day rolled around he had something else to do.  His buddy needed him because he was going through a though time.  A friend that he hasn’t seen in a long time called and wants to spend time with him.  His buddy wants a long overdue guy’s night.  He had long list of things.  When I would mention that it was our date night he would tell me that he was here all night last night.  True he might have been, but date night is when you go out do something together.  Not spend the night in different rooms. It didn’t take long for me to refuse to do it. We never went or did anything together.  I was to take him to his friend’s house, go home and wait for him to call.  He would have hissy fit if I wanted to go with him or tell him it isn’t fair that I have to stay home. He would tell me that I could go out and be with my friends, yet at the same time start a huge fight if I did. All my friends wee trouble makers.  

I would say “No it is our date night.” He would reply. “So you are saying I am not allowed to spend time with my friends.” When I would say. “You have car, take yourself.” His reply would be.  “You are telling me that I have to drink drive. That I have to put my life and the lives of others in danger.” When I would say no that he is twisting my words he would say to me. Also tell him that no one is forcing him to risk anyone’s life that it would be his choice and his choice alone. He would tell me. “If I die it will be all on you.” “How would feel if I died from driving drunk.” If I would say.  “Only if I go with you, because you promised that we would have our date night.” His reply would be.  “You are trying to isolate me from my friends.”